Sex? No Thank You: A Look At Asexuality On International Asexuality Day

Hugo van Dijk

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Post on May 19, 2025

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Dispelling Common Myths about Asexuality

Asexuality, often abbreviated as "ace," is a sexual orientation characterized by a lack of sexual attraction. However, countless myths surround it. The asexual spectrum encompasses a wide range of identities, making blanket statements inaccurate and harmful. Let's address some common misconceptions:

• Myth 1: Asexuality is a choice. Asexuality is not a choice; it's an inherent aspect of an individual's identity, similar to other sexual orientations. Just as someone cannot choose to be heterosexual or homosexual, an asexual person cannot choose to experience sexual attraction.

• Myth 2: Asexuality is a mental illness. Asexuality is not a mental disorder. It's a perfectly normal and valid sexual orientation. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) does not classify asexuality as a mental illness.

• Myth 3: Asexual people are incapable of relationships. This is demonstrably false. While asexual individuals do not experience sexual attraction, many have fulfilling romantic relationships, friendships, and intimate connections that don't involve sex. The asexual community is incredibly diverse, and relationships within it are just as varied as in any other community.

• Myth 4: Asexuality is just one thing. The asexual spectrum is vast. Many asexual individuals identify with sub-labels like gray-asexual (experiencing sexual attraction rarely or under specific circumstances), demisexual (only experiencing sexual attraction after forming a strong emotional connection), and others. Understanding the diverse experiences within the asexual spectrum is vital for genuine allyship.

Exploring the Asexual Experience

The asexual experience centers around the absence of sexual attraction. This doesn't mean asexual individuals are incapable of intimacy or romantic love. Many asexual people form deep and meaningful relationships, experiencing emotional intimacy, romantic attraction, and other forms of connection. Their lives are full and rich, just like those of individuals with other sexual orientations.

• Asexual people can have fulfilling romantic relationships built on companionship, shared interests, and emotional intimacy.

• Romantic relationships within the asexual community can take many forms, showcasing the diversity of human connection.

• Non-sexual intimacy—such as cuddling, emotional support, and shared activities—plays a significant role in the lives and relationships of many asexual individuals.

• The asexual experience is unique to each individual, with varying levels of libido, romantic attraction, and forms of intimacy. There’s no single "asexual experience."

The Importance of Representation and Allyship on International Asexuality Day and Beyond

Asexuality often lacks visibility and understanding in mainstream society. This lack of representation can lead to discrimination, isolation, and difficulty for asexual individuals to find community and support. International Asexuality Day and every day beyond should emphasize the importance of allyship and working towards a more inclusive world.

• Increased visibility of asexual individuals in media and societal conversations is crucial to challenge stereotypes and promote understanding.

• Using respectful language and avoiding assumptions about an individual's sexual orientation is vital in creating a safe and accepting environment.

• Allyship can take many forms, including educating yourself about asexuality, advocating for inclusive policies, and supporting asexual organizations and initiatives.

• Resources such as The Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) provide valuable information and support for the asexual community.

Celebrating International Asexuality Day

International Asexuality Day is a time for celebration, education, and advocacy. It's a chance to raise awareness, showcase the diversity of the asexual community, and build allyship.

• Share informative and supportive content about asexuality on social media using hashtags like #InternationalAsexualityDay and #AceDay.

• Donate to or volunteer with asexual organizations that support the community and advocate for its rights.

• Attend local events that celebrate diversity and inclusion within the LGBTQIA+ community and beyond.

• Engage in conversations with friends, family, and colleagues to educate them about asexuality and promote understanding.

Conclusion: Embracing Asexuality and its Spectrum

Understanding asexuality requires acknowledging the diversity of experiences within the asexual spectrum. It's not a monolith, but rather a vibrant community with a wide range of identities and relationships. Embracing asexuality means accepting it as a valid sexual orientation, dispelling harmful myths, and celebrating the unique contributions of asexual individuals. This International Asexuality Day, and every day after, let's work towards a more inclusive and accepting society where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. Learn more about asexuality, become an ally, and help celebrate the beauty of the ace community. Let's build a world that truly understands and embraces the entire spectrum of human sexuality. For more information and resources, visit and [link to other relevant organizations].